In an initial assessment I will ask you more questions than usual to get a history of your relationship and background. In ongoing sessions there will be times when I will just let you speak and say little, and times when I may reflect on what you are saying and offer another perspective. I use your personal history to gain an understanding of what patterns from the past may be repeating themselves in your relationship. What I don’t tend to do is give “advice” or actual exercises to carry out between sessions. I rarely recommend reading material and I will not keep secrets for one partner from another. The couple is my client (unless you only ever come to see me on your own). I try to see couples together as much as possible but I will consider seeing a client alone if their partner is away or unwell. This would need to be agreed in a previous session.